Is it easier to blame some one else rather than take responsibly for how we feel?
Not in the long run because it is a lie. Lies cause tension in the body and contribute to rigid thinking.
Stiff mind, stiff body.
Relax the mind and the body relaxes. Relax the body and the mind relaxes.
Uke grabs, holds tight and doesn't move like we think they should. We can feel how we feel and chuckle at the need to blame.
Then we can relax and do our best with the technique that we are learning. We can ask for help if we need it. Blaming another or ourselves is not an effective training tool. It distracts us from what we can change: our bodies, minds and spirits.