When a person makes the conscious decision to defend themselves they change from the inside out. Now that person has the chance to make a choice about every single situation in her own life.
When a person is complaining about circumstances he can hear the hollow echo of whining in his ears. It no longer fits...it feels like trying to squeeze into a child's sweater.
Now that person knows that since he has made the the decision to be pro active in self-defense, every circumstance is an opportunity to train. Instead of wasting time complaining about people, places or circumstances we can change the only thing that we really can change: Ourselves.
The decision is very important. Until it is made all else is futile.
The path is also important...that will become available during the process of the decision to defend oneself.