Wednesday, November 28, 2012

20 Ideas about how to tell your story to habit holders:





     20 Ideas about how to tell your story to habit holders: 

                                                     (There is 1 in each of us)


1. Forget yourself.

2. Look at the same technique at different speeds.

3. Change the technique slightly.

4. Exaggerate the part you want to change.

5. Let student self correct.

6. Ask questions.

7. Keep repeating the technique until the habit is noticed by the student

8. Move on to something else and return later with the same approach.

9. Move on to something else and return later with a new approach. 

10. Ask for feedback from other students.

11. Do technique with eyes closed.

12. Do technique with one hand.

13. Do technique on one foot.

14. Make suggestions. A little at a time.

15. Be enthusiastic and animated.

16. Praise small achievements. 

17. Speak positively.

18. Talk about your own experiences.

19. Find each person’s currency.

20. Accept that often experienced students are not willing to let go of the familiar.


Saturday, November 3, 2012




Will it ever go away? 25 years of training….20 years since he died. A noise, a smell, a word said wrong, a door slammed… can still set the response off. I can go from being perfectly comfortable to crazy adrenaline kicked in, hyper-sensitive, breathing getting choked out of me fear. I can relax through it mostly, nowadays, yet I can’t stop it.

Many a night I stare out the window to catch a glimpse of I don’t know what… straining my ears to hear another sound like the one I thought I just heard. I never believe myself…doubt riddles the fear adding shame to the adrenaline.

Now, I can think and breath…I can check in with Ron about what is real this day. Training does help…as does prayer and compassion for the process of outgrowing how my father showed his love.